Organising is often seen as this lonely endeavour. Part of this is, that organising or lack thereof, makes us feel somewhat ashamed or lonely. There is no need to feel ashamed, as organising is a skill that needs to be taught and needs to be developed in a mindset that is calm and clear, shame and guilt don’t help here. If you haven’t been taught to organise, it is very hard to learn all the tips and tricks by yourself. Or if you feel overwhelmed by a busy life, it is hard to know where to start.

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Ask for help

This brings us to other people around you, it is okay to ask for help from a friend, a colleague or a very organised relative, as they will most likely be delighted to help. Besides, if you organise in consultation with others, you tend to come up with better ideas.

Organising alone when others don’t want to help

In other situations, you could be in an environment where people don’t want to help and organise and potentially boycott you, which could make the organising journey a very lonely one. This could be at home or work, it could be through hurtful remarks, by people keeping their stuff messy and not allowing anyone to get near it. This makes the newly organised person either cranky, inefficient, or pushed into a position to clean up behind them. Of course, to a certain extent people are entitled to be not as neat and tidy as an aspiring organised person, but it has to be within reason. If it isn’t, you can firstly lead by example, if this doesn’t work, you’ll have to ask yourself if you have the authority to push the agenda of organising. This can be done with; children, staff and sometimes with partners.